He gives us a magnificent interview coach staff and writer María Fernández. In addition to collaborating in important audiovisual and written media, She is founder and director of Coaching & Media, firm specialized in coaching to public figures, in addition to individuals. She is also a Team Motivator, field in which he has worked for Ibex companies 35. Recently published The little book that will make your life great (Encourages), why we asked. GINÉS J. VERA
Tell us about what we heard, the ones we tell ourselves, of the power that words have as he reveals to us in his book.
The language we choose is very important both to speak to ourselves and to relate to our environment.. Language is a reflection of what we think and feel. However, We can also change how we feel if we decide to modify our language a priori. I explain myself. Let's imagine that instead of using the word problem regarding the difficulties we encounter, we started using the word challenge o challenge. How does our relationship with what is happening to us change?? If what we have in front of us is a problem, We will feel victims and smaller in relation to him than if we called him challenge. He challenge has the ability to measure us against that difficulty; the word challenge gives us power, desire, force, determination, and ultimately it is a test that we must overcome to be even stronger and have more tools in the future..
I liked that interesting phrase in your book that reminds us that “We don't learn as much from positive experiences as from negative ones.”. In the end it's going to be true that: “more mistake, make a better mistake”.
Of course. Our mind works in such an extraordinary way that when something hard happens to us, from that apparently negative event we obtain the greatest of the counterparts: a learning.
We are what we live. But, above all, We are what we do from what we have experienced. True wisdom consists of knowing how to turn difficult situations – sometimes extreme – into authentic blessings..
We read in the book what fear does not live in the present, We only feel fear when our mind travels to the past or the future.. Two moments that we know do not exist; a subtle paradox: one has already left and the other is yet to be discovered, and therefore, we can change it. Isn't that so?
Fear lives in worry, not in occupation. Live on a mental plane, but not on a physical level, of action. Action is the antidote to fear. When we deal with what torments us we are not afraid. We simply use our mind in search of solutions. Besides, fear is necessary because it protects us. It is a defense mechanism, that makes us alert and thanks to it we guarantee our survival. But today we tend to be afraid of circumstances that do not threaten our existence.. To know how to use fear to our advantage, The first thing we must do is identify if what harbors us is a protective fear or an oppressive fear.. The first type of fear is positive. The second does not. Even so, in either case, the solution is always the same: the action. face it. And even understand it.
To combat fear we have to look it in the face, decipher the message they have for us, maybe what we have to be careful about, and then walk along the path we had defined. And when we act we realize that many of our fears were nebulae that dissolve the moment we take action.. We must use our fear to protect us, but without stopping us. Fear grows when YOU DO NOTHING. It feeds on your inaction. It's like herpes. And from my point of view, The most dangerous thing about fear is when it makes us doubt our abilities.. There fear has subdued you. But the objective is to submit us to him. There we will have won.
